Bringing home a new puppy or dog is exciting but if you have young children, preparation is key to making the transition smooth, safe, and joyful for everyone involved. At Lupa K9, we specialize in family dog training in San Diego, and one of the most important steps we teach families is how to set clear expectations for kids and dogs alike.

Here’s how to prepare your children for your new furry family member.

1. Talk to Your Kids Before the Dog Arrives

Have age-appropriate conversations about what it means to have a dog. Let them know that dogs have feelings, need space, and communicate differently than people. Help your kids understand that a dog is not a toy, it’s a living being who may feel scared or unsure in a new environment.

Make a list together of “Do’s and Don’ts” like:

• DO speak in a calm voice around the dog

• DO give the dog space when they’re eating or sleeping

• DON’T pull on ears, tail, or fur

• DON’T hug the dog tightly

2. Teach Safe Approaches and Petting

Show your kids how to safely approach a dog:

• Ask an adult first if it’s okay to pet the dog

• Let the dog sniff their hand before touching

• Pet gently on the back or shoulders, not the face or head

• Avoid loud noises, sudden movements, or chasing games

You can even role-play with a stuffed animal to practice calm, respectful petting before the real thing.

3. Set Boundaries Early

Use baby gates, crates, and designated kid-free zones to give your new dog a safe space to decompress. Make sure kids understand that when the dog goes to their bed, crate, or designated “quiet zone,” they should be left alone.

Explain that dogs need time to rest, and that interrupting them during rest can cause stress or even fear-based reactions.

4. Model Calm Energy

Children often mirror adult behavior. If you greet your dog with calm energy, speak gently, and give space during transition times, your children are more likely to do the same.

Encourage kids to sit quietly and allow the dog to come to them. Over time, this creates trust and builds a stronger bond.

5. Teach Age-Appropriate Responsibility

Even young children can participate in caring for a dog:

• Preschoolers can help fill water bowls

• Grade-schoolers can assist with feeding, gentle brushing, or cleanup

• Older kids can practice leash walking (with supervision)

These shared tasks foster connection while reinforcing healthy boundaries.

6. Supervise All Interactions

Never leave young children alone with a new dog, especially in the early weeks. Even the friendliest dog can get overwhelmed or startled. Supervision ensures safety while giving you the chance to step in and redirect inappropriate behavior from either party.

7. Involve a Professional Trainer

Working with a trainer who specializes in family dog training, like us at Lupa K9, can make all the difference. We offer personalized guidance for families in San Diego to help your dog and kids learn how to coexist in harmony. From structured introductions to age-appropriate training games, we’re here to support your journey.

Preparing your kids for a new puppy or dog isn’t just about safety, it’s about laying the foundation for a lifelong friendship built on trust, respect, and communication. With a little education and consistency, your children can become your new dog’s greatest allies.

If you’re in San Diego and want professional support with your family’s new addition, reach out to Lupa K9 today. We’re here to help your home thrive!